Today is my birthday.
For me, birthdays are less about cake and candles and more about reflection.
I believe your Birthday is your own personal New Year. I have a special tradition of celebrating my own personal New Year.
It begins every year, at the exact hour I was born, I take time to pause, to meditate, and to take stock of what’s here in my life - the people, the work, the love, the lessons. And then I ask myself: What am I still holding onto that no longer serves me?
Just three little words - let it go - can stir up resistance. Not because letting go isn’t important, but because for many years, it felt like a demand to release pain I wasn’t ready to release. Sometimes it meant letting go of something I once loved, or a part of myself I was attached to, even if it wasn’t healthy.
That’s why I don’t use the phrase lightly. Letting go is not easy, and it’s not about erasing the past, giving up control, or leaving yourself unprotected. It’s about refusing to let what no longer serves you define your future.
As a coach (and as a human), I’ve noticed this pattern in myself and others: we hold onto things longer than they serve us. We think we’re protecting ourselves, but in reality, we’re creating barriers between where we are and where we want to be.
The mental and emotional space we use to cling to the past is the very space we need to invite in what we truly want - in our lives, our work, and our spirits.
Here are some of the most common ways we hold on when it no longer serves us:
- The need for approval. No amount of validation fills the gap if you don’t approve of yourself first.
- Old regrets. Replaying conversations you wish went differently or chances you didn’t take only keeps you anchored in the past.
- Old beliefs. About money, relationships, your business, or even your worth. Beliefs aren’t facts - they’re patterns we inherit and repeat until we begin to question them.
- Fear of change. It convinces you that the unknown is scarier than the pain you already know.
- Stories about yourself. “I’m not good at business.” “I don’t attract good relationships.” The narratives we tell ourselves shape what we believe and, ultimately, what we allow ourselves to achieve.
- Grudges and resentment. Holding onto them is like gripping a ball of fire to protect yourself but the only one getting burned is you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean the wrongdoing was right. It means you stop letting someone else’s actions control your energy, and you reclaim your choice about how to move forward.
So today, on my birthday, this is my ritual: to notice, to release, and to create space for what I most want to step into for another magnificent year of my life.
My hope, possibly even a Birthday wish, as you read this, you’ll take a breath and ask yourself:
What am I ready to let go of?
Imagine a life that has the space to create whatever you truly want and the belief it is possible. Because you can and it is, ask me how I know.😘
Letting go is the end of what was AND creates space for the
beginning of what's next - what you want most.
Here’s to creating space for what you truly want!
